So I had my 2nd appt. with the therapist last night and it went really well. 1st session so far (with either therapist) where I was not in tears the whole time. Just 1 or 2 here and there. So I do feel like I am getting stronger every day. Like they say, "what doesn't kill you....yada yada yada".
I do like this therapist so much better than the 1st one and I am so glad I looked for another one. I had never been to a therapist before so I didn't really know what to expect. It is my suggestion that everyone go see at least 2 before you pick one to settle with. It's like interiewing for a position, you may think you found the perfect candidate, until someone else walks in your office and you realize how much more that person has to offer.
The therapist has again brought up the time thing. He asked me how long I will allow this to go on like this. How long will I continue to live in the same house with him, where I don't know each day if he is going to come in the door and tell me he is moving out or filed for divorce. Each day where I try to talk or share things with him about my day and I get nothing in return. Each night where he sleeps in a separate bed from me and shows me no affection whatsoever. When he has not given me one verbal recogonition at all that he thinks we have any chance to work through this.
The therapist brings up a good point - he does not see how being in the situation we are now that things can move forward in any direction. It is as though we are at a stale-mate. If we are not talking how can we resove things or figure out what needs to be done. If we are not physically seperated, how would we/he know if we truly do not want to be with the other person. With the way our situation is right now, it does not seem possible that my H would come home one day and say "ok, I want to work on things". I just don't see how that could ever happen.
