The weird dynamic that that incompatibility causes and the fact that the HD person WILL end up spending most of their M feeling a bit starved and the LD person WILL end up spending most of the M feeling a bit hounded.
And is there anything to be done about it or is it just a case of c'est la vie.
Fran, All I can say is that you get to a point where you realize that there will always be differences about many things ( not just the sex), but rather than feeling so frustrated by your spouse, you are able to accept. You get into a better mind frame with each other and you reecognize that tomorrow is another day to figure things out and work on them. There's this sense you are in it together.
Ironically, the way I have gotten to this mind set is by getting some more of my needs met ( which has taken lots of cage rattling...unpleasant to say the least). Simply put, things often have to get worse before they get better.
