I will back up testify to what Willing NJ H stated above to snooping. My wife had used my desk top computer in my home office to view her emails and left the email program open. I have/had no reason to mis-trust my wife or believe she was up to something behind my back. But, I went beyond my better judgment, even after saying in my head "Don't do it!" and proceeded to snoop. Needless to saw I saw a few emails between my wife and her friend about 2 different guys. One had a picture of a guy attached (my wife sent the picture to her friend) and they were casually commenting back and forth about his looks. And the other was an email about a guy who had texted my wife to see if she would like to go out with him. Well, I sat and stewed over these two different emails for about two hours. Then I printed the picture of the guy and went up stairs and handed it to my wife and walked away. I approached her again about 15 mins later and started to grill her about the emails. Long story short. THe picture of the guy was a picture of the boyfriend of one of their other friends and my wife was just forwarding the picture. The guy that had texted her to go out, did want to go out, but she says she told him she was not interested in going out, because she was married and not interested.
Needless to say my over reaction to these emails "MY SNOOPING" and thinking the worst and putting my own spin on things. Lead to my recent separation a little over 4 weeks ago.
Point is, don't snoop unless you are prepared for the worse and make sure you are ready to deal with it. I wish I never, never would have snooped. I have had the chance a few times since, but I learned my lesson the first time.
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