I can see that it would be quite effective and I really do think it would help us. I think it would take a little practice though to get it right. A couple of times I have tried to just listen and not interject and it's hard to do, for me anyway. I also have attempted phrasing things with "I" statements, but I found that difficult too.
I am aware that I am usually thinking about my response when I'm listening to cac.
You know, I would love to get to the point where we could try a technique like this and then if/when one stumbles with it, the other could step back and say "that wasn't an I statement, can you rephrase it?" and neither one of us would be defensive. It would just be an exercise and we would work on it together. Is this just wishful thinking?
