Would you really want your wife to stay with you because of financial dependance?
No, I would not want that. I would want her to stay with me because she really loved me and wanted to work through this mess with me. But I know that is not going to occur at this point.
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I'd be grateful to FIL that he is making it possible for your DD's to live in a decent home instead of some run-down rental for the half of their lives that they will be with their mother.
I see your point here. The reason that I am put off by it is that my W can/does make good money. He is only helping to expedite her running away. I would not let my girls live in a shack with my W. If I had to get rid of my house so I could afford a place for myself and a place for my girls with my W I would.
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She has made that decision, and I think that enough time has passed and enough roadblocks have been put up that she is resolved to go through with it.
You are absolutly right, she is going to go through with this D, there is no stopping her from my point of view.
Hope,
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Hope you had fun at the fair.
We had a great time. My girls got to see all the animals and pet a few. They loved it. We sat around the....don't really know what it is called....horse ring and watched a few of the competitions. My D5 kept asking me questions about what was going on that I had no clue on how to answer. Despite their Daddy's lack of knowledge about equestrian sports we all had a good time.
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I didn't know that they have county fairs in the Chicago area? I thought that was a rural thing.
Well....they do. I live 35 miles south of the city and just barely across the border so I am not far from some rural areas. There are actually a lot of horse ranchs by me since there is a track near by. Growing up I never went to a county fair, I did not know that they even existed. Once I got married and moved to Indiana I discovered this county fair and have gone ever since.
Tonight I actually thought it might have been funny if I bought a hog from the auction so that I could let it loose in my W's new place to see how she feels about having her place soiled like her puppy is doing to mine.
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Maybe that is the reason that we are both in this predicament....no, I don't think that it is it...it must be that we are married to selfish people who looked outside the marriage to find their own happiness...that's a better reason.
I have always done my best to not let my work interfer with my family time. There are times were there is nothing I can do about it, but that is not often. I always tried to do my weekend work while my family was asleep. I would wait until everyone was tucked away and would slip downstairs to work for a few hours. They normally did not get effected by it or even know that I was up all night working. I do travel for a week about 2-3 times a year and there is not a whole lot that I can do about that. I do agree that our S's are currently extremely selfish and looking everywhere else but themselves for their happiness. I find it amazing that my W did not even know she was unhappy until this SOB came into the picture.
