Hi morgan, so sorry about your grandmother. My step father (of 20 yrs) is in the middle of treatment for cancer, and H hasn't asked once about him. Fog, fog, fog.
You have been SO strong morgan, I only hope to gain your strength!! I can't believe you have been through so much (thank you for retyping it, I should have just looked at your threads, DER). Amazing how together you sound, but maybe clarity was needed for you to re-focus, huh? I am so so SO sorry about your kids (sigh, the innocent faces, I can only picture them, but I know, boy do I know) and the memories you have in your mind now.
I think you should still use that model that your sister had. I think you and I have the same problem though, H's who don't show any interest/remorse/concern, etc.
SIGH!! At least we have found this place. Hope you get some sleep tonight. You deserve it.
PS: Finally someone understands my feeling of betrayal from the OW, someone I knew through a bond of other mothers, women, making friends through our children. And she does this??