None of us are perfect husbands nor wives.... we were the best partner we could be, at the time, with what we had gathered (earned, learned) at the time. We all had/have room for changes and growth..... if we were perfect, we wouldn't be here on earth. With this said, I hope you aren't being too hard on yourself here, and understand we were exactly what we were meant to be at the time, and are becoming exactly what we have been intended to be. Changes are painful, as we have all learned.
I have found that it is best to pick and choose those things we can control or change, and leave the rest up to God and the rest who share this world with us. I just hope you can avoid the last path I have traveled, although it does feel as though things are finally quieting down for now.
You are doing so well, it's time for you to celebrate YOU.
Take care, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........