Sandi: I don't know what's going on with you but I'm going to assume the worst because I know this battle so well. If it is nothing like what I am about to write, good. Praise the Lord. But if I'm anywhere close to being right, listen up:
I think you are talking with om again but I am not here to condemn you. Quite the contrary, in fact. I understand the pull the fantasy has on you and I know the weight of shame, too.
If it is your choice to play with fire, you damn well know the consequences. They are many and I can personally assure you this is not worth any of them.
The grace of God can pull you out of many pits but willful sin is one you've got to start climbing out of all by yourself.
I can offer you my hand but I can not make you grab it.