There and Back

[SallyM]

lwb, I'm so sorry to hear that you have been going thru something so simliar. and wow, our kids are even the same ages. seems like we have some stuff in common.

we did a couple of months with H on the couch, too, and yeah, the kids noticed (obviously), but he just doesn't see the differences in them, or if he does, doesn't get why they are happening. if d3 is more whiny/regressing on potty training, he just thinks she's being a brat. nice, huh? as for him here on the couch honestly, I got so tired of having a roommate. and I was really irked by how comfy he seemed at times. off and on, he would end up in the bed, but then things would change again. having him out of the house was hard at first, but also liberating in a way. having him here, but not as a husband, was like salt in the wound...a constant reminder that things were a mess, that he wasn't in love with me anymore, etc, etc.

if I had thought keeping him here, even on the couch, would have brought us closer, I would have stuck it out. but it seemed to have the opposite effect. granted, him gone continues to push him further away, but I think that would have happened regardless. so I don't regret my decision there.

thanks for writing, and look forward to getting to know you more.

Nikki, I may just do it one of these days. ya never know! things are busy from now until september, which is good, but come fall, I might just start reaching out some more.