Separated from WAW

[Willing NJ H]

Sounds like your feeling a bit like me right now, sorry to hear that. The only way i've found to deal with it, is to get out the frustrations on here and read DB and DR. Don't assume the end is near, hold your head up. Your like a lot of us who know what we need to do, but find it hard to control your own emotions. Read the great advice you've given me, you've helped when I felt just as you are right now. I know how hard it is, but it helps to think that there are DBers who had it much worse and are now success stories. Lin went 2 years, OW's, everything, and she's back with her H and doing well now.

As for the snooping, we just hurt ourselves when we find things that we'd hoped not to. I've had the urge a few times, and refrained. The one time I wasn't actually snooping, I found the compromising pic and it tore me apart. The pic ended up being nothing, but bothered me for weeks. Snooping isn't worth it brother, we only confuse our minds and emotions even more. Listen to your gut, not your heart. Things may be gettings better, but she may still be unsure of your changes. If you say or do the wrong thing, it could cause a set-back. As you know, i've said the same things as you, and have mentioned things to my W that I was better keeping to myself. We all know it's hard, and you will do what you have to do, but try not to make the same mistakes we have. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Just remember, it's going to hurt like Hell at times, but it gets better.