Anyway, I was just curious of what you thought he was dishonest about...
I have no clue really. Your description of your marital problems made me think of a situation in a novel I read. A man left his wife even though they had a good marriage because she was very calm and he wanted to have more emotional effect upon her. He felt like he would know that she really loved him if he felt like he was making her happy. Anyways, he eventually realized that it was a mistake to leave her and they reunited. Clearly the problem was the husband's "need to be needed." Maybe that was your H's problem.
I was unhappy with my H's unhappiness/depression/anhedonia but that was because it manifested itself in tangible ways that made him a poor marital partner.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
