Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Thanks for the input Slowly.

Is this one of W's siblings whose spouse had an a with another sibling's spouse? Either way, she seems like a grounded person, who has either suffered directly from the eposide that you feel triggered your W's depression, or has at the very least, been exposed to the same pain, and seems to have bounced back.

Yes to all. She has a new boyfriend, but took about 2 years before she started dating and spent that time re-establishing her career, sense of Self, and PMA.

Either your W is genuinely more fragile, of incredibly self indulgent.

Unfortunately, she is incredibly strong willed and, in the throes of MLC, also incredibly self-inidulgent! The question I am asking myself is..."Is this the real W?" Since she was the youngest of 4 kids with 18 yrs. between her and oldest sib, she was spoiled rotten. Actually, I called her "SR" when we were dating! Should have been a sign!

Hopefully SIL's encouragement for IC will be well recceived

So do I, but my expectations are low!

Do nothing peppered with 180s seems like a good strategy, by the way.

It is all I can manage for the time being, so it will have to be. I thought of asking her to go out on Tuesday, but instead did a 180 and just did my own thing without inviting her. She is right now glad that I have "moved on". Which I have from the person she is today. Of course, the door is open for a new, self-aware W to come in to my life again.

Thanks again, SD