Since you were not unhappy, his comments made no sense and perhaps you thought it best to ignore his "concern" for you.
Nope I did not ignore it. I tried to realistically look at myself because he was so adamant about it. I don't ignore things like that. (Like when you suggested I might be controlling, although I didn't think so I did check around with friends and family and thought about it just to be sure) I agreed with him that I could be "happier" if I got work figured it. I also tried to talk about why my unhappiness was so bothersome to him too. I also asked him if he was unhappy.
But I can also see that what he was trying to say, if you can read through his ego, is that your focus on you was not soothing him.
What?? I always complimented him on being a great attorney, his work in the juvenile court/being a guardian ad litem, his attractiveness to me, etc.
You were doing fine in carrying on with your life, but maybe he was starting to fell left out.
Nope he actually had been pushing away from me for a few years. He thought that I wanted to spend too much time together etc. I was probably the one feeling a bit left out as he developed a friendship with one particular woman he worked with.
Could there have been a little of CeMar's sitch at play in your previous marriage? Just wondering....
I'm not sure what you mean. The "irony" is that I naturally act the way Dr. Laura tells women to do. My XH probably turned me down for sex consistently 5 -10x more than I turned him down from the time we FIRST started dating and throughout the marriage. So am I cemar or was my XH cemar???
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
