Shocked H in NJ looking for DB help

[Willing NJ H]

Ok, she sent me a text and said "There's nothing to worry about. Yes im sure Suzie and Sina will have guy friends there, we are all just gonna drink and have a good time thats all. Sorry for rushing out of the house, I was late for meeting them." I don't think it caused any major damage, but it definately didn't help anything. I think she understood because of the way I asked, but asking was a stupid move. It can't let this happen again, my own little alien took control. I need to develop my self contorl over the OM sitch, just like I did our S. This will be a much harder thing to deal with, but I know I must if I want any chance with my M.

My new goal: If something bothers me, decide if I really need to try to approach her / or if my emotions are controlling me. If I think that it's ok with DBing rules to bring it up, USE THE 48 HOUR RULE no matter what I think!