Now while saying I wasn't happy enough might sound minor but it was a BIG issue for him and he brought it up a lot.
Come on.... who gets divorced because the spouse is unhappy but that person is happy? Of course its projection. Your ex was the one who was unhappy, but you kept focusing on whether you were happy or not. Since you were not unhappy, his comments made no sense and perhaps you thought it best to ignore his "concern" for you. I can see that.
But I can also see that what he was trying to say, if you can read through his ego, is that your focus on you was not soothing him. You were doing fine in carrying on with your life, but maybe he was starting to fell left out. This is not uncommon for men. In fact, I think it is more common than not. Could there have been a little of CeMar's sitch at play in your previous marriage? Just wondering....
