Decide, and then once you have decided suck it up. That's called being a grown up.
GGB is right, I did say ASK her that is the important point. And don't ask her like you don't really mean it ask her in all seriousness, just pretend like you're asking if you can have a weekend's fishing. When she raises objections be really calm about it and keeping trying to figure out why not.
Why not? You don't want me to keep bugging you Why not? You'd still be my wife Why not? Afraid your friends might find out? Why not? I won't spend any more money than I already do Why not? I'll use a condom Why not? I'm not going to get all hung up on someone Why not? It's just sex Why not? - because I'll cut your dick off - well that would be serious bodily harm I think you'll find you can get up to 10 years for that kind of thing
Let us know how it goes.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
