Yes, I've read some (good endings) on this board. I don't expect or want a Hollywood ending, because I want my wife to be happy and it is apparent that she is not as happy as she could be. So, things need to change for us, both of us - but I firmly believe it can and am prepared to work very hard at that. I wish I knew how to help her, but I think this is all about her helping herself first. So we're back to patience again.

My life in these past few months has changed massively, so much is already different. Our old R cannot be restored, but as you say it was not working, so there is no problem there, only opporunity. Perhaps if she does come back (or I go to her) I will feel anger, but I don't right now. Just sadness, compassion and love. That's not to say I am not daunted by the future, I am, but I am trying to see hope there too, regardless of the nature of that future.

On a less philosophical note I am taking a camera on my hols and will reserve judgment on the photos. It's funny, so many of the people here have expressed an interest or best wishes towards me for my holiday I almost feel as if you are all coming along too!

Unfortunately I'm going through money quite quickly at the moment. Part of that is in preparation for the new job and the rest is to give myself a treat - so am drawing on a part of my savings. If I can't do that now, when can I? Couches sound good though ...

Agent99, hope you're doing ok. It looks from the other threads that things are getting serious. Look after yourself first.

Max


Me 36
W 37
Bomb (Easter 07)
Sep (WAW July 07)
"It's over" (end Oct 07)
T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)