Okay, let me see if I can explain myself better. MsHd is all about rules, law and order. To an extent this is actually what you appreciate about her. However, she's kind of like a dictator or an out-of-control bureaucracy. You can never win if you go by her rules because although she will never break the rules (like your ex) she will always make new rules on top of the old rules to maintain control. So you need to be like a revolutionary in order to level the playing field. This is hard for you because you are a Type 6 so you need to think like a Type 7 (but a higher functioning one than your X) IMO that is the only way you will be able to reach the vulnerable woman hiding behind the power structure. However, I think you really need to ask yourself if you actually prefer the order/structure she provides for you in her current modus operandi to the sex she might provide if she was relieved of her responsibilities.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
