Nothing wrong with being sensitive - you are expressing yourself and I totally know where you are coming from. But, it is still better than clamming up - really it is!
Two things you might want to try are mirroring - where one person says what they are feeling and the other person has to repeat it back to see if they "got it" - try just a few minutes of this every couple of days, it does work. It is great for that miscommunication and and thinking something totally different than what was actually said. H and I did it in the C's office several times and it is quite effective.
Now the only thing with mirroring is that you can't accuse the other of doing something, or not doing something. It is solely to express YOUR feelings - how YOU feel, whether those feelings are justified or not in your partner's eyes
The other thing, which is a lot more intense, and I would suggest you do it with a MC, is emotionally focused therapy. H and I are just going through this now and have only had one session but boy oh boy, was it intense and to the core. We have had two "talks" since that time (and the session was only on Sunday) and both talks were brutal, but VERY effective and amazingly enough, we didn't go to bed mad at each other, which used to happen quite often (which ate at me like flesh eating disease - I can't stand going to bed mad but when one doesn't want to talk, it makes it VERY difficult)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
