Not so Shocked 4

[nickyf]

Hi everyone

I am sat here feeling very confused at the moment. A few weeks ago my husband started flirting by text again, this is something he has done quite regular since the bomb but i was being hurt constantly when he with drew so i decided to text him to tell him to stop flirting with me as it was constantly giving me false hope. He replied to y text by saying that he was sorry and that he would stop.

Anyway last week my husband started flirting again heavily by text and when he came. He even turned up at the gym on Thursday night when i was there, knowing that i would be there. On friday he left for Majorca to go and meet OW and other friends out there. He phoned on Saturday and said that he was really missing D3 and that when he got back on Monday he was coming straight round to see her. No fliting at all while he was in Majorca but seemed a bit down when talking on the phone.

Monday morning while waiting for his plane back home he staed to flirt again (OW not coming back with him because she is staying until Thursday with friends). When he landed he came straight round, you could tell he had missed D3. He started flirting heavily again with me.

Tuesday he decided to tell me when we spoke on the phone about all the debt he has got himself into and that he was having to go through a debt consolidation place to sort out all his debt. He sorted all that out that afternoon. He also got himself a job interview because he hates his job. When he came round to see D3 he still seemed down, i asked him if he felt alot less stressed now he had got his finances sorted out and got a job interview, he said, no not really. When he left i text him just to say that if he ever needed anyone to talk to, i was here. He text back saying thankyou, he appreciated it, things were just hard at the moment.

Anyway today he came to see D3 again, no fliting at all, he got the job starts in a couple of weeks. We got talking about why he was stressed, he said that it was just things like money, job and the divorce. He told me that a few weeks ago that he had an episode where things were just racing round his head, he could not concentrate on anything. He would try to focus on the issues that were bothering him but he was unable to and he didn't know why, he said he thought that he was going mad. He also said that he feels a bit better today, with the new job and everything and that he feels like he is getting sorted in his head. Seemed very much back to the MLCer to me, playing down issues. He said that he was not depressed, just stressed with things.

Today, i told him again that the flirting with me needs to stop because it was giving me mixed messages, he said he knows and that he does not know why he keeps doing it. He has told me that he won't do it again. He also told me that he wants me to start dating and thinks it would be good for me. I did some bad DB and told him that OW and her S4 could never love him as much as D3 and i do. I told him that he needs to think about why he flirts with me when he think he has all these feelings for OW.

So i really don't know what to think, he seemed so ok with me dating, like he wouldn't be affected by it at all. Can anyone please help me get my head round all this?

By the way his huge bandaid (OW) is back tomorrow so he won't be coming round to see D3, it will be back to the usual visits.

Hope eveyone is ok

Nicky