I joined this forum over a year ago when my husband first left me, but I've not posted in all that time. Here's a quick update...Mostly I've been sitting waiting all this time, taking care of my kids and going on with my life while he figures out how to "get happy". Now 13 months later, he doesn't seem to be any further along in his journey. BTW- he admits that he's afraid to go to counseling because he thinks they'll tell him to change. My 13-yr old daughter has also commented to him, "Dad, you left because you wanted to get happy, but you don't seem any happier. Maybe you should change something else." I found out last week that he's been dating someone else since March. Feeling that he's been lying to the kids and I all this time, I started divorce paperwork immediately. Now he calls me and says he's "all in knots" and feeling doubts. It could be that the reality of divorce is finally hitting him, but I really believe that down deep he thinks he's doing the wrong thing. We talked about getting together for a last ditch effort to see how we got along. Maybe some kind of date to test the waters. He first suggested dinner and a movie, but is that the right kind of first date after 13 months separation? I sent him an email the next day telling him that I would let him decide the way forward. Divorce or date, but at his pace. He hasn't yet responded either way. If he chooses to go on a date, however, I'm at a loss for what to do. Does anyone have a good suggestion of a non-threatening, fun thing to do together? Thanks in advance for any advice you can give.
