I agree with your assessment, but we can only get so much counselling when we live 3000 miles apart. Today is our 26th anniversary and he called this a m to say Happy Anniversary and he is so grateful we are joining him tomorrow. He also pointed out that technically, our M wasn't cosummated on the 8th, due to guests at the reception etc. So maybe our anniversary is tommorrow? I'll go with that.
I do have fears about his old habits. I will also have to keep in mind that if I knew then, what I know now, I would do things differently too. And I will, if I stay on track to being the best partner I can be.
There are issues up there professionally that I pointed out long ago. But now, as time has passed and I step back to let him observe, I think he is on to the fact that it is not perfect up there and even when I get there, it won't make the job situation ideal or 100% great. No job is. I won't point out the things unless I really have to. He is watching as the job I am taking on is heading HIS company's growth and facing their constant legal fights. It'll be stressful and he is getting that. So I just have to let him learn and have as open a mind and heart as I can manage. I am going to work on keeping this in mind. Seriously. I'll need feedback b/c I know I will have a hard time this winter.
Your response and plan is great and you are doing all the right things. I had to laugh at the funeral comment she made. Gotta make sure NO happy thoughts are allowed as they might create an expectation of HER!! God forbid.
Stay on track, you are doing well. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
