Am I seperated? Looking for support/advice...

[not an ex yet]

Savingus:
I was just reading through your posts here and cannot believe how similar our situations are!! It is almost scary. The only major difference is that my H and I have two children, and unfortunately he did move out in June.
My H and I were short with each other at times and bickered quite a bit but I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined that he was that uhapppy. I too knew that there were things that bothered him but not to the point of ending our relationship. He has given me the "too little too late" speech and is sometimes very rude when I try to make small talk. I try to just ignore it and tell myself that he is only making himself miserable by acting like that b/c like you said, who gets annoyed by someone talking about the weather? It is silly. After he moved out he said that he didn't know if he could come back b/c he was afraid that after a few months I would just go back to the way things were and that all these changes I have made are just to get him back, so basically he said he wasn't buying it that I could change. My H also said that I cry too much and he gets tired of it and doesn't talk to me about things b/c he knows I will cry. I feel the same way as you...that is just the way I am, deal with it! My H was also unhappy that I didn't initiate sex...so unlike your situation, I started initiating it all the time. I still do when we are together. I think that is one thing that he has noticed (well, obviously) and has actually been a positive thing for us but every situation is different so I would say that is your call whether it will make things better or worse.
Sorry, I'm not trying to take over your thread, but I just couldn't believe how many similarities we have.
Good luck. Keep posting, it looks like you are hanging in there and getting some great advice here.