Reality...Bite Me

[Dom R]

It sounds like you are saying:

- He life sounds so exciting now, why would he come back

- If he does, he's going to be depressed.

Sounds to me, like you are just describing the stereotypical MLC maybe you should go re-read the MLC forum guides on the stages of MLC, to cheer yourself up a bit. (or at least, have a reasonable expectation of being ok, if you stick things out. they're not exactly cheerful... sigh...)

According to that, they all go through depression, when they realize their dreams arent perfect, and they come back to reality. So the depression stage is not a "bad" thing in the long term. Just rough to deal with.

As far as the second best thing... weeelll... that's something you're going to have to work out within yourself.

For my take on it.. i figure that for every marriage, there's always going to be someone else who is "better" at something than you are, to your spouse. The most important question is whether your spouse realizes that, and still makes the commitment to stay with you, for the rest of your lives, and make the best marriage the two of you can have.

If they choose to live their life in "if only i went with..." mode, then obviously, you are both going to be miserable with that. If on the other hand, they choose to say, "the person I am married with, is a great person to be with, and that makes me happy"... then that's good enough for me, at least. That would make me quite happy, if my wife would think like that.
That's something I believe we could build a great marriage on.