Was a little snippy with her this morning. Offered to bring some movies back to the video store, but she kept saying don't bother. Like she's trying to prove that she can be independent and doesn't need me. Good lord, I know she doesn't need me, but it's like she spurns any offer of help from me. It's like she's pushing me away so that she doesn't have to think about what she's doing or open herself up to a chance that things can get better/she can have feelings for me again.
I know exactly what you are saying here. Remember though, they are trying to justify their actions. They are telling themselves there is no other way, that you cannot change and that they have made the right decision. When you do start to change, and they begin to recognize it, it throws them off. They start to wonder if they have in fact made the right decision. Her not accepting anything from you is exactly what you say. It is her way of trying to ensure that those second thoughts are kept to a minimum. They don't want you to change at this point. They have already made up their mind. Keep doing what you are doing. It appears to be giving her second thoughts, whether she admits to it or not.
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I'm really starting to believe that she's done.
Just my opinion but in connection with what I wrote above, if she was really done, she would not be concerned about how accepting help from you would make her feel. She would already be tuned out, so any goodwill coming from you would not make a difference. I don't know if I am explaining this well. Just that if she was done, I don't think she would mind taking advantage of your giving nature. The fact that she does not want to feel guilty I think says alot about where she is.
Good job on the rugby GAL, although I don't know if I would choose rugby. Sounds a bit dangerous.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07
