Today i called her to see how she is doing emotoinaly and blatter infection maybe. She doesnt want it to go back the way it was right before she met om. She likes us both doesnt know what to do. She was going on msn messinger and his name was deleted and she thought he took it of and said that she was actually relieved, as she doesnt seem strong enough to make decision. turns out d16 probably did it or d20, I have never used it. She talked to om and he got mad for her doubting her and said that he couldnt delete her list if he wanted to. I dont remember what all was said but i told her whatever she decides it wont work if she puts him on the back burner and tries w/me. I want her committed to us before we try. I told her i/we need counseling to get through this. also mentioned retroville, bassicly to show there are options for us. We are still on for tonight.