Hey Atlas, huge realization. Hit home for me too. I found myself questioning things to do b/c I was focused on paying down debt I brought in to the R. We went places all the time while dating. Days before the bomb, W mentioned a short weekend trip, and while I showed interest, I aasked how much it cost. She was practically begging to go away with her and reconnect. IDIOT!!! She has been going out with friends a lot more since the separation. I have encouraged her, smiled, and remarked on how much fun those events must be. I visited a friend last night just to get out and do something. Had a couple drinks and played Super Tecmo (we have a 4 man garage league, we're that cool). Last night, coupled with your realization really make me see that I gotta go farther back than I thought to be that mushroom (you know a fun guy). Dig deep my friend. Have you taken a ride in her car? Maybe if that's a possibility, a good opportunity to tell her how much you like it b/c it is so fun. Baby steps to that party.
Me 32 WAW 30 D Bomb 7/9 Separated 7/15 Reiterated bomb 8/12 PA 8/21 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1198643