Pete's Further Progress - 2

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Oh, Pete,
The kids. That part can really hurt. I can empathize. I imagined my kids being raised by the OM, and they would call him Dad, and it brings me to tears thinking about it now.

Here's what I did. I tried hard to think of what was best for the kids, even at my expense, and to let go of what I can't control.

I thought of it this way. If the kids are happy, healthy and safe, then I've done my job as a parent, and as s person who loves those kids unconditionaly. So even if they don't call me and even if they call the OM Dad, if they're happy and healthy, it's OK. For the kids, this really is where UNCONDITIONAL love comes in. Unconditional, even if it hurts you or me.

But, I know my kids aren't going to forget me. I doubt yours will either. And time is on our side. We have time to build good relationships with the kids.

So fight to keep the kids, if that is best for them. If you lose that fight, keep doing what's best for them.

The jealousy and pain is yours,and your kids don't need it, and shouldn't have to deal with it.

I wish for you the strength you need to do what should be done, and to forgive yourself for the mistakes you'll make along the way.