A Pretty much a lot of what you said fits me and I am sure a lot of other men out there who feel this overwhelming need to provide and give our Ws everything we / they didnt have, and as a result, wiping the fun out of life.
Dont feel bad about it, it is very noble in my opinion, we just need to lighten up. Throwing a big party is probably not the answer, it is way more subtle than that.
If your like me, you do not smile as much as you used to, take every situation so seriously it can just push others away, so just start by lightening up on your expectations about life / others and find small things to do.
Your call, I could see a big party as pushing things if you invite her.
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Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.