I think that the 'standing' and 'detaching' mantras, are about allowing ourselves to see and enjoy the good parts like that... yet also detaching and occupying ourselves elsewhere, when they behave like schmucks. (not putting UP with being treated badly directly... but when they are being less than nice to us, for us to just go do something else)
the "standing" part, being allowing ourselves to see the good parts still left in them. I'm not sure what you mean by "truely gone"... I thought you had decided that floozie was probably not going to be a permenant fixture in his life?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
