Living with my WAW 3

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Hi there SD - This is an interesting phase in the whole dbing process. You are detached, almost to the point of WA yourself. She remains conflicted.

She said she could tell that W was not thinking clearly and that she was considering recommending counseling. She understood that any mention that we had discussed it would be counterproductive.

Is this one of W's siblings whose spouse had an a with another sibling's spouse? Either way, she seems like a grounded person, who has either suffered directly from the eposide that you feel triggered your W's depression, or has at the very least, been exposed to the same pain, and seems to have bounced back. Either your W is genuinely more fragile, of incredibly self indulgent. Hopefully SIL's encouragement for IC will be well recceived

At the end she asked how I was handling it. I told her that these past months had been the saddest of my life, but did not give any details. She said that this was very different than the story W gave her in that she was lead to believe that I was also happy to move on!!

Of course, classic MLC lens - everyone else wants the same thing they do!

Do nothing peppered with 180s seems like a good strategy, by the way.

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