"Supportive of your dreams" --you mean the dream where you have a husband that treats you with respect?
Heh. Well, with the exception of *that* dream.....
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Just for the record, HE is the one who is casting aside his vows. What you need to do is recognize that those vows cannot stand forever on one side only.
yeah, okay. I see that.
On the 'other' board, this was posted by the 'Man' himself. (Benefit of going to MB weekend).
"From my perspective, a date from a husband who is "dating" others would run the risk of being emotionally catastrophic for you. It's his suggestion that you do such a thing that makes me wonder if he's not borderline sociopathic. It's downright cruel.
Your best bet right now is to sit tight in Plan B and wait for the fog to clear. My most optimistic assumption is that your husband has been having affairs during most of your married life, and he's in one now that has captivated him. When the affair is over, he may come clean and explain to you what's been happening all along. If that really hasn't happened, and he really does want to compare you with other women he dates, I'd strongly encourage you to end your marriage, in spite of the negative ramifications. Marriage should be a relationship of extraordinary care, and for your husband to leave you at a time that he has a clear mind is evidence that he's your worst enemy. He's using you, not caring for you."
How's THAT for a 2x4? Admittedly, the other board definitely has a different approach when it comes to saving marriages and can sometimes seem rigid. But, even if I tone down his comments, they are still pretty harsh.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
