Holly said something similar about H needing to be my hero. I think you are right about being needed and appreciated. I have to remember that. I am sure that heroin is good at acting all helpless and needing him but that will get old, too. He used to love it when I worked along with him, too. Thanks for your support.
Yes, these men like to feel needed and wanted. And eventually he will see that his family really does need him and he needs all of you. It will happen in GOd's perfect timing.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I had a very nice conversation with H today. He said his attorney said we don't have to sign the D papers because the Judge signed them. I don't know but if that is so then I am D. Must be in God's plan if that is the case.
H wants to keep me on his auto policy for as long as possible because he said it would be cheaper for me??? Then he said he wanted me to sign off his bank account so he can get it changed over (I guess that means get my name off it and change the address. He just bought new checks so that seems like a waste but oh well) When I told him that it would be a while until I was off work during the day so I could do it, he told me to take my time, no hurry. Then he said he wants us to keep the debit card. He said in case the boys or I needed anything, we would have the card??? I can understand wanting the boys to have access to his account but ME???
He is trying to be really nice but I am sure it is out of guilt because he is moving in with heroin and the boys are struggling with it.
Time will tell. I have to believe that God is speaking to him, too. Even if he doesn't realize it yet.
Please pray with me to put a godly counselor in H's life soon. Thanks for your support. I also need your prayers for my S32. He begins stem cell therapy tomorrow. I am not sure all the details but I know that once the stem cells are harvested, he will get high-intensity chemo to completely kill his immune system. This will leave him so vulnerable, it scares the daylights out of me.
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Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
He is trying to be really nice but I am sure it is out of guilt because he is moving in with heroin and the boys are struggling with it.
Just ignore his motivation because that can change. Instead, keep feeling the gratitude for him being so nice, to encourage more of this in him. And make his gesture a big deal to him.
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I have to believe that God is speaking to him, too.
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Please pray with me to put a godly counselor in H's life soon.
Will pray for this for S32’s stem cell program. Keep believing that S32 is OK and well.
I talked to S32 today. He got a new port put in this chest today and is starting the first stages of the stem cell therapy. He sounded good and I talked to my grandsons. They are so sweet. I miss them.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Patty, the D is just paper right? You are standing, and I am behind you. With one condition. YOu never lose yourself, or your sense of worth, while standing.
Your Son is in my prayers. You are a great mom.
HUGS
Luv you
Live Simply Love Generously Care Deeply Speak Kindly Leave the rest to God
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I am really feeling pretty good lately.
Lissie,
I will never lose myself again. Been there, done that!!
Things are so busy at work right now. At the end of the summer marking period, I am moving my class to another building and will be teaching 3 sections of science and social studies to my home group only. I have to meet with other teachers who will be taking one of my groups over to bring them up to speed about the students. Then I have to meet with the two teachers I will be teaching with and then move everything and put it away to be ready to teach again. Not much time to worry about my situation.
I am not sure but I would like to go to see my son during this treatment. It really scares me that they are destroying his immune sysem during this procedure.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
ANM, I hope you get to go visit your son. I am sure he would so love to see you. It's definitely pretty harsh on the system. My prayers are with you and him. Love, PH
