Horny? Moi?

[haphazard]

What is UP with me? I cannot describe how badly I am climbing the walls with pent up desire at the moment and it is not even cycle related.

I read my horoscrope on the way to work today, this is what it said

LEO:
Thoughts of summer love distract you from just about everything else. Whether you're planning for a real romance or living in a fantasy world, nothing else whatsoever matters. Except to your boss.

How uncomfortably true.

We are getting it on quite a bit at the moment, at my initiation. Night before last I just had to wake H up at 2 in the morning because I couldn't sleep. He was cool about it and we had a good time, well I did anyhow, not so sure for him. Once I'd had my fill of Os the last one being the real explosion and the one where I at first thought he O'd too, but he hadn't. So we kept going but not much was happening for him. I suggested he take me from behind because he normally enjoys that and also it is a very active position for him and therefore usually works well to get him to finish. But although I still had a good time (but didn't O anymore) still no dice for him. It then took about 10 more minutes to finish him off with a blow job.

I hope this isn't too much information and I am leading somewhere with this I promise

The next night (i.e. last night) H could tell I was very much up for it again. I was being gentle on him though and promised to leave him alone if he'd had enough of me. He denied it and said he was cool with it. So we kind of languidly lay there and did mildly suggestive things to each other, it didn't heat up and I didn't want to just jump his bones again. So I just said, "It's OK if you're tired and not really in the mood". He kind of mumbled something in agreement and backed off so we just lay there for a bit. I have to say I was being very easy on him because I really wasn't sure if I could handle not doing it. About 5 minutes later he took the initiative and upped the ante so off we went. Again great time. After I finished and it was when I was really really sure he was just about to explode too he again didn't. But this time I just faked not to notice and thought to myself 'well if he wants it he's going to have to come and get it'. We fell asleep.

I just feel that this is classic LD stuff really. He is being so sweet and trying to step up to the plate but I get the feeling his drive just plain ain't up to what I need. I don't want to keep bugging him about it and I do want to give him a chance to start feeling horny on his own account because at the end of the day I do like it when it comes from him and I don't have to encourage him. But I know from past experience that he will likely do nothing and I will just end up more and more frustrated. When that happens our R in general just starts back down that old slippery slope.

Why am I even posting this question? This is just the same old same old that we HD people know far too much about on this board.

At the end of the day does it all just boil down to basic incompatibility in levels of desire? Is it inevitable that the LD person will end up feeling hounded thereby decreasing their desire and the HD person end up feeling short-changed and their desire becoming more starved? If we insisted that two people ate the exact same amount of food regardless of their energy output and body size would one of them always end up feeling a bit hungry and the other feeling unenthusiastic about meal times?

And if this is the case should we perhaps become more open to the idea that the hungrier person satisfies their needs elsewhere? Ok - I'm just going to put my flame-proof suit and hard hat on now.

Fran