1) put up with less sex, intimacy, validation, etc, 2) rattle the cage enough to bring about change and repair the marriage, 3) leave.

Is working on yourself NOT an option? I could see it I guess as a 1A or 2A option - put up with less TEMPORARILY while you work on your own issues??? Working on your own issues might rattle the cage in some relationships and in others it would be the space needed for the other person to relax too.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus