I agree with Fearless. One of your ideas is proactive, assertive and pro-Dieda. The other is completely opposite. I think your problem is that your TRUE expectations are way too low. You say you want a wife who desires you but you do little to bring that about. So either you don't believe your own expectations or you don't believe you are worthy of those expectations. Put yourself in your wife's shoes. Which CeMar is she to believe? Part of being a Dieda man is to truly know yourself and be firm and consistent. I don't see that in you yet.
Tell me again in very specific actionable steps, what can I do as CeMar to change my marriage? What is step 1?
