secondly I've seen distance creeping between us and have been too lazy to work aggressively to stop it, third (in retrospect, of course) I don't think I've heard his need to spend more time together, and fourth I haven't trusted him enough to let myself be emotionally vulnerable to him
Sounds like a lot of the same reasons my M got to where it is.
I know exactly how you feel about how much it hurts that your H is willing to walk rather than work on the M. However, as I've come to understand, there's nothing you can do about it but to be the best person that you can and hope that brings them back.
Just wondering, but is your H aware that you're willing to work on improving your sex life together?
Good luck walking that tightrope. Just remember that the DB guidelines are guidelines only and, in your situation, it might make some sense to show a little more vulnerability than most of us do. That said, clingy, desparate and crying are not positive things to do with your H.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
