SD please don't leave I would like to have you about for a bit loner .. a lot of the things you post are the things I've been thinking too .. like leaving the site (although I'm making less frequent trips these days and posting a bit less, and posting a lot more jokes).
I know what you mean about a new normal - it's like I've stopped scannnig the skies for the next bomb. I can also spot when my behaviour is less than kind to my H and change it (eg I snapped at him the other night, realised it and apologised 1 minute later).
Glad to hear LW thing is now fading - like the witch in the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy pours water over her and she gets smaller and smaller, screeching "I'm melting! I'm melting!"
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.