Listen carefully to what H is asking for and give it to him.
This is such a tough one. DH says it's "connection," so I think "sex" and all the good stuff that goes along with it feelings-wise for him. But right now that's out of the question. Any thoughts on how to "listen" between the lines, in the meantime?
I just read this is another thread: "If, on the other hand, your spouse has felt unimportant or neglected in the past, your quietly sitting back and not fighting for him/her might be misinterpreted as your not caring enough to do something about his/her actions."
I think this is where I am, and I feel like giving him space will be seen as not fighting for him. So how do I fight for him when he seems to be saying he needs space?
I realize this is a long haul and maybe I really should just continue to give him space, but these early days sure feel critical.
