Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
Today was a great one. I spent the a.m. with W and kids at one of our favorite places on the planet, a great state park on a beautiful river in the hills. On a tuesday a.m., it is your own private playground. Kids and I swam in the rapids and did some rock climbing. W sunbathed and watched.

I had an appt. at the university to talk about what I would need to do to shift careers to academia. Not easy, but no harder than DBing!

After lunch and I then took the kids to a the other spring fed pool in town where they had wanted to go yesterday. Again a perfect spot and we had a fantastic time diving down to look for fish, swimming in the 67 deg. water, and laying in the 95 deg. sun.

Finally, we met up with W, SIL and BIL for my birthday dinner. I was supposed to drive with SIL and kids, with W and BIL in other car. Kids wanted to ride with W and BIL, so I got a few minutes alone with SIL (prayers answered?!).

I went through the talk I outlined yesterday and it went great! She said she could tell that W was not thinking clearly and that she was considering recommending counseling. She understood that any mention that we had discussed it would be counterproductive. At the end she asked how I was handling it. I told her that these past months had been the saddest of my life, but did not give any details. She said that this was very different than the story W gave her in that she was lead to believe that I was also happy to move on!! I ended by saying that I did not want to bias her against W because W needed her family and friends to support her. SIL said support emotionally, yes, but not to unconditionally accept their bad decisions! YIKES, I hope this turns out OK!

Anyway, dinner was pleasant and we came back to SIL's house before I went to visit another old friend of ours and hiw W. Again W declined to come. As I left, big hugs for kids and SIL. Light pat/rub on the back for W.

Had a great time at friends. Totally smart/cute 3 year old. Caught up on a few years of missed conversations.

Thanks to all who provided the support I needed to have this convo. with SIL. I will keep you posted on the results.

SD