Cali, Have you thought about checking into a separate maintenance agreement. That way he would have to pay child support and help with bills. Also you can get a restraining order saying that no marital assets can be sold off. This would protect you without having to file for divorce. I too waited to let my H file for D. I wanted this on his conscience. In answer to complaint my lawyer requested that he pay my attorney fees. I guess this is the way it is usually done when other party is at fault. I'm totally in the dark when it comes to things like this. Luckily, when he left our checking was comfortable and he paid me some money up until May. I haven't seen a dime since him since then, but checking is still okay. I'm working on separate maintenance now. When I got the form I filled it out, but waited to send it in where I could have father and step-mother look at it. Good thing I waited I overlooked a lot of expenses and underestimated some. Now I've just got to finish the corrections and get it in. Maybe the family services could help you look into this.
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