Well, I went to IC today - and LOVED it! This was my first time with a SBT and she just added so much insight into my situation. I can't wait to go back! (isn't that crazy??) After such a great experience, H said that he thinks he needs to go back to C and really deal with his issues. (I couldn't have said it better) And to think that came out of his mouth without any prompting from me...crazy! He just saw a change in me and decided that he needed to make a change too. Does that give credence to the principles of DBing? I think it might... \:\)

If any of you are hesitant to going to see a counselor because of a bad past experience or you don't think one will help, let me tell you that the right counselor makes all the difference! I went to one last year and she was awful (after 2 sessions and never even speaking with my H she told me that he was a narcissist and I should just divorce him) - today's experience was a completely different experience. While D may still be an option for me, she allowed me to see other options as well.

Hope you all are doing well!
EM

Me: 34
H: 39
M: 7 yrs
H A 12/05-8/07

If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley