I'm wondering if it is a good idea to set up a time/day to talk about the events of the week(?) Not relationship talk; but about the kids, maybe about communicating plans so I don't look dumbfounded when the kids tell me their dads plans?
I did have a 'real' conversation with H the other night. I let him know that we needed to communicate our plans with each other before telling the children.
There have been a few weekends where I thought we would be going to the lake and he made other plans. It just makes it hard when the kids wonder why he isn't coming and I haven't been let in on that knowledge.
I suggested if he wanted to take the kids to the lake, I could stay home. He said it wasn't that he didn't want to go to the lake (with me), just that these other things 'came up'.
Anyway, I was careful with my wording. I acknowledged that I had not informed him of my plans to go to the lake either, and that we both needed to communicate with each other ahead of time so it wasn't so confusing for the kids.
He told me he had golf tournaments for the next two weekends, then we have plans to go to the lake (as a family) with some other friends from baseball.
I feel much better knowing ahead of time what to expect.
