Lou, would you offer this advice to a HD PT-LL person? I wouldn't think so. And that's what I was getting at.
Is it ever exciting or fun for you? If so explain to Cac when it is and ask him to do the things more when it is more fun/pleasurable.
It's not that it isn't exciting or fun. We have talked about what I like and what he likes. The problem is that we have general R problems that rear their ugly heads in the bedroom.
The whole feed-back chain needs to be improved. It can work with QT. Don’t expect Cac to figure out what you like about QT, after you feel some good QT has happened, tell Cac which times/parts of the QT meant the most to you.
I have done this a few times. I still think it's a question of understanding another person's LL when it's different from your own. I sometimes think that he doesn't take QT as seriously as PT.
