Flynn, I have been thinking just that...He deserves to know. Though I still am reluctent in telling him. Our W's would flip their lids if they knew we are talking. He is supposed to be going to MC next week, hopefully his W has the guts to let him know all that is truely going on.
TAL,
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Im so glad you have them and that has to make you feel good even though you M isn't.
So am I...I am truely blessed with my DD's. They are absolutely awesome kids. They do not deserve to grow up in a broken home. But neither them nor I get to decide on that. I am and will continue to show them that I love them and that I am here for them no matter what. I want to be their biggest source of encouragement to become who they want to be and to go after their dreams.
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I couldn't upset my kids that way. I would have to give it a try even if I was the cheater for my kids sake.
I agree completely, then again you and I are not under the decietful spell that is lust.
Yoyo,
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It's amazing how they can justify even something like that. They aren't a bad person, the mean ole lawyer just makes them look that way.
Come on Yoyo she is great person, why can't you see this.....Like my W they feel everyone is out to get them and surround themselves with people that will sympathize with their self prescribed agony. My W even claims that a lot of people are treating her differently and have abandoned her. Guess what not all the people she claims treat her differently know what is going on. And the friends that she feels have abandon her tried to hold her accountable and encourage her to do what was right. My W did not like that and nolonger stays in contact with them because they were/are trying to encourage her to do what was right, what is biblical.
Yes, it is unreal how they act throughout all of this. I am still in disbelief that this is the woman that I have loved all these years.
Hope, Glad your back safe and sound from your trip. Yes, a lot always seems to be going on for me and my sitch. Just when I get a breather she hits me with something else. The good thing is that it will end one of these days.
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Your wife has a lot of guts. How can she accuse you of treating her bad?
Don't you remember I am abusive and neglectful. I put her through misery for the last 7+ years of our M.......I know that I am not a perfect man but her reasons and excuses have me scratching my head. I remember a few days after she dropped the bomb on me she said that I was perfect and never did anything wrong and that she would jump for joy to learn that I messed up. On Christmas I got a letter from her saying how much she loved me and could not wait for the next ten years of our lives together. These are things you do not say to someone who is neglectful and abusive like she says I now am.
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You are too good of man to use your daughter to get back at your W...doesn't she see that.
I hope she knows that by now that I would never say anything to my D's to get back at her. No matter what happens she is always going to be their mother and I do not want my girls growing up thinking ill about their mom.
Thanks for the kind words. From hearing how bad I am from my W constantly I start wondering if I have ever done or said things that make me deserving of all of this. I know not to listen to her, but it wears on me. Hearing this from you reminds me that I am not the bad guy she is painting me to be.
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They try to control everything...it's our job to not let them control us...they don't deserve it.
You are absolutely correct. This is one of the reasons I want this over with so she can nolonger tell me when I get to see my girls. It will be laid out in black and white. I will know when I can make plans with them and for them.
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We have both accepted the reality that we are getting divorced...the million dollar question is have our WAS?
Great question... I sometimes wonder if she has totally accepted her decision. It seems to me that she still tries to prove to me that she can get along fine without me. But then again she is buying her new place, buying stuff for her new place, got on her own health insurance, etc... So she is doing the things that she has to do to move on... Who really knows, I guess only time will tell.
