Thanks Sara for your encouraging descriptions of the weekend! I still have a hard time believing so much can be healed in a weekend, but I am definitely open to letting the process work its magic if it is meant to be.
I am trying not to get my hopes up because I am not sure my wife will agree to go, but I did pose it to her as a way to improve our communication skills, for us or for future relationships if things do not work out between us.
NikkiB wrote:
"And they insist that you look into each others' eyes when you dialogue, so you see just what you saw 10 or 20 years ago. The young person who you loved."
terrifies me??
We've spent so long NOT talking... this intensity freaks me out.
I can appreciate what you are saying, but since the eyes are the windows to the soul, think of connecting eye to eye as a way to penetrate the intensity of the exterior, to get to the peace you each hold within.
3 days ago, I get a letter from a high school friend I have not seen in 19 1/2 years. (He does not know about the separation and difficulties between my wife and I) He had mailed 3 photographs he took of my wife and I as newlyweds while we stopped to visit him on our move to Boston. We looked so carefree and happy and these are the two people I hope we can see when we look into each other's eyes. But how is that for timing? He had the photos in a drawer for 19 years, and for some reason he decides to mail them this week.
LG
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
