Lisa, This is your thread, so let's keep it at that. To answer your question, I will be ok. My H shows signs of pure authentic MLC, tonight he wants to move to a dinky house and quit his job. Lala land. 3 yrs ago he wanted 10 kids. What advice can I give you? What questions can I ask in DB form? First, let's put all those emotions/feelings aside and look to what we've got: a couple "working" on their R. The term "working" means different things to different couples. I think you talked about a book of the 5 kinds of showing love. Maybe there are x kinds of "working on the R". For some, the C works. In your case we are still in the solution journaling mode, which is probably a tool you can carry forth througout your lives together; sounds to me like the ultimate solution. From your posts, you two talk just like a H and W talk. That kind of friendly, no expectations, comforable talk. NO PRESSURE. It has to be nice, because it's only when you lose it, that you realize how important it is. For those of us who took our R's for granted, the simplistic talk ended a long time ago. Sitting in our familiar chairs and just sharing the air between us. Remember, I think it was you, tielbeagle, who had a thread once to the tune of "you don't know what you've got till it's gone". You chose this route, make the best of it, Thinking of you, SS
