My marriage is hopeless VI

[Hope_11]

Wow, a lot has been going on in your sitch since I've been gone.

The other comment that she made to me I thought was interesting. She told me when I look back at this in a couple of years I will see how badly I have treated her during the D. I told her that I have done nothing wrong. I got a L and put this D in their hands. I have been working with you on settling some of these issues because it is the most fair to us and our girls. It will also save us money in the end.

Your wife has a lot of guts. How can she accuse you of treating her bad? She's the one that had the affair and destroyed your family. Our WAS must think that all of us LBS are just saints.

My W is concerned that I am going to say something to my D that will effect her in some way. She said that she is going to have to trust that I do not cross any boundaries that she has put down. Does my W forget: who is the one having an A, who is the one lying and deceiving, who is the one tearing apart our family? I think she at times feels like she is in my shoes....or maybe she is just trying to be controlling and realizing that she has no control over me anymore.

You are too good of man to use your daughter to get back at your W...doesn't she see that. She wants to be the victim so bad...just like my H. They will never be the victim. They try to control everything...it's our job to not let them control us...they don't deserve it. I think that we are both starting to do a better job with this. We have both accepted the reality that we are getting divorced...the million dollar question is have our WAS?