There and Back

[SallyM]

right now she is not with him when he has the kids...I'm 99% sure of that. there is a niggle of doubt on 2 occasions. one, a sox game. he took S5 to one, but only had 2 tix...normally there are 4. now, there are some occasions where that is true (they are company tix). but still, my own doubt made me wonder if OW was there with her son. the other occasion was when H took the kids over the weekend, and one day they went to one of our favorite beaches in maine...further than he usually takes the kids, and at a place that OW just happens to have a beach house. I think for sure I would know if they met her/her son because kids this age talk, ya know.

I have asked him NOT to introduce the kids to OW until after our divorce/papers are signed, should it come to that. I think they have enough on their plate to realize daddy has replaced mommy, and also OW has a son 6 months older than my eldest...so think they will feel really replaced by that. if he's thinking about more than with, well, parts of his anatomy, he'll keep his promise here. but who knows. I've seen some things out of this man that surprise me greatly. his selfishness knows no bounds. time will tell.

anyway, as for changing their relationship, the only way it changes is instead of working for the same company/on the same team, he works for another company that deals with his present company...in fact, his present company is so important to new company, that they would be H's focus...its 40% of their business, so huge. If OW gets H's current job (is this confusing?), then they will be VERY cozy indeed.

again, not that they couldn't be even if they had nothing to do with each other job wise. but it assures that they will be in contact with each other. should lightning strike and he realizes what he is losing (in me) and all that, it would be pretty much an impossible situation for me/us. but I don't think he's forseeing that lightning to strike.