Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Thanks Heimlich,

I think I will give it 48 hours. The hard part for me is that I know my wife still has some glimmer of hope for us, otherwise she would have completely broken off contact with me. She has still contacted me several times in the last couple weeks that we were supposed to have no contact, including spending the night at my house a couple days ago.

I know I can't believe most of what she says at this point but she did say "I hope that things work out between us", a couple of times in the last 2 weeks.

But like you, the OM part is probably a deal breaker for me. I am losing my sanity just thinking about it. I made the mistake of listening to her voicemail and finding messages from the OM. I wish I had never listened to the voicemail because maybe I would be able to get through this until she finally broke it off on her own, and I'm not very proud of my snooping; makes me feel like a bad person since I've never done anything like that before.

I think my DB'ing and LRT/180 are having an effect on her. She even mentions how surprised and pleased she is when I do something she doesn't expect.

But I don't know how much longer I can hold out. I have very little patience to begin with and the OM is making it impossible to be patient. And because of the fragile state of our relationship right now, I know that my wife will probably completely end our relationship if I give her any ultimatums about the OM.

I guess I have an extremely tough decision to make. I love my wife very much and I don't think I will ever be able to find another like her. Even though she has hurt me so much the last few months I know that I was no angel in the years prior and I don't blame her for feeling the way she does. It was mostly my behavior that led us to this point and unfortunately it appears that the changes I have made may be too late. This really sucks! I never could have imagined anything in life could be this heartbreaking and difficult.

Svejk